You’ll never hear these words cross the lips of these high performers. How can this benefit our lives, our families, work and business … and all of life?
Entrepreneur Magazine interviewed a former Navy Seal. These elite teams are expected to maintain a successful attitude. Wouldn’t things be better if we thought and spoke a little more like this?
“I can’t do that.”
It’s better to say, “I will do that.” Or even “I won’t do that.” But our best default response is: find a way.
We settle way too easily, don’t we? If “I can’t” is a frequent thought pattern and phrase we use, we weaken our lives.
And where do these ways of thinking and speaking begin? In family life and relationships.
“Sorry, I’m late.”
Really? Rarely are people authentically sorry they’re late. Most likely someone is late because they’ve mismanaged time.
Or worse, we’re rude and don’t really know it. It’s a bad habit that communicates “I really don’t care that much.” If we don’t respect others and their time, we are treating people badly.
Would the always-late person be tardy for their TV show?
“I’ll never hurt your feelings.”
We now live in such a touchy-feely, political correct atmosphere … you really should not express your conviction about something if you hurt someone’s feelings.
Was Jesus obsessed about feelings? His focus was set on what is true … his Father’s work. And with people experiencing their full potential.
See how Jesus interacted with people in the New Testament. He didn’t condemn sinners. He orgave and then challenged them to improve their lives. He often tested and confronted his followers and disciples. His strongest words were for religious hypocrites.
Love is always concerned with the best interests of others. Feelings can suffocate everything.
“I don’t know.”
It’s much better to say, “I don’t know now, but I’ll find out and get back with you.”
Let’s kill the phrase, “I have no idea.” Go get an idea. Get a bunch of them. See which ones are best. Ideas matter. Good information is a difference-maker. We’re created in God’s image—and a big part of that is our capacity to think and reason.
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— Brian Del Turco (@BrianDelTurco) October 15, 2014
Resolve to be successful. Cultivate an overcoming attitude and influence others to do the same.
As we build trust with others, there’s nothing wrong with setting expectations and holding each other accountable. Wouldn’t things be more successful if we thought and spoke a little more like a Navy Seal?
Is weak thinking and speaking minimizing our lives? What about the lives of those we influence? Does a “good person” have to be soft all the time?