Being sensitive is a gift.
Life works better as we cultivate our emotional intelligence (EQ) … our self-awareness, stewarding our emotional life, capacity to empathize, and communication skills.
Be both sensitive and tough.
But we can waste a lot of years and energy if we’re not both sensitive and tough.
Build up your mental and emotional toughness
Research is clearly showing that individuals with emotional intelligence are more successful in how they do in life than those with just a high IQ. Our EQ (Emotional Quotient) is more important than our IQ.
Here’s something important: we can cultivate sensitivity (vital to live well) and at the same time become tougher. The stronger we become, the better we are able to interface with others and the world-at-large.
And this is important because when you and I are able to engage what’s outside of us in a healthy way, we are able to bring who we are to the table of life. As we more fully engage life, we feel better about who we are … and others benefit.
You can be a tough mudder
Do you understand the tough mudder phenomenon? I think it’s connecting with a primal instinct — to test ourselves, to live strong, to overcome.
Pretty good metaphor for life, isn’t it?
Things are messy. Everyone wants to do their best. And if we’re to have integrity, we have to go after it hard.
Let’s train ourselves to be tougher … even as we cultivate our sensitivity in life. Here’s a few thoughts to maybe shift our perspective and get us thinking about becoming stronger …
- Celebrate and love yourself. I mean it. Learn to celebrate yourself. You’re then free to celebrate and love others more fully.
- Increase in confidence. How? Train yourself and keep learning. One of the traits of a high EQ is self-discipline. Discipline increases strength. Read more and read better. Take a course.
- Go after clarity and definition as you move forward. Here’s a guarantee: you’ll catch vagaries if you chase after them. Get clear. Journal. Writing things down is a powerful act.
- Eat with integrity. Do you feel particularly strong when you sit on the couch along with a bag of cheetos? We’re “cheeting” ourselves. Eat cleaner. Eat for life-energy and a higher purpose.
- Love your body and treat it well. Gnosticism is an ancient belief that despises the material world and thinks little of the physical body. Are you Gnostic? When we get to the gym (or whatever we do), we discover that other areas of life improve. Amazing.
- Initiate and sustain relationships with tough-sensitive people. We must have people in our lives who are leaning in the same direction we want to go. Who we relate to has an almost unbelievable, inescapable effect on who we become.
- Get strong in your core. It’s about more than abs. Initiate and develop a strong spiritual life. Integrate into a community of faith that is right for you and never quit. Ask for guidance to find the right people through the seasons of your life. Be strong in grace (life-empowerment) (2 Timothy 2:1).
I know I begin to sense an empowerment when I start leaning in the direction of these things …
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