Who’s in your life right now? Take a 360 degree inventory. Who are you surrounding yourself with?
Will you level up and reach higher levels in your life and work? Or will you stall and stagnate? Better get serious about who you’re connected with because the right relationships are key to your success.
I just completed an advanced proof copy of The Impact Equation by Chris Brogan and Julien Smith. Really enjoyed it. A good read about being relevant and relatable on the web.
Their book is loaded. Several pages triggered the theme of this post. Here’s some brief perspective about going higher and the importance of the people we are connected with.
Who’s around you?
You’ll probably need some new people in your life to help you advance in life and work. Actually, you’ll clearly need them.
The authors ask a few questions. If you’re a skilled musician, would you start a band from scratch with neophytes? Or would you work with people at a certain level of skill?
If you’re a good writer, would you partner with a beginning writer with little or no experience to write a book? Or would you link up with someone at your level or even above it?
Taking inventory of the people in your life is worth the time. We may want to ask a trusted friend or two to give us their viewpoint. They may see gaps or inadequacies in our relational network that we can’t see.
I’ve come up with a little “level up” calculus …
Who’s around you will get inside you. And what’s inside you shapes your life outcomes.
Reach out, stretch, and grow up
That’s right. Grow up. Not a put down. But actually grow up and out from the place you are—reach higher.
Think about your relationships, finances, well-being, or something relating to your work or business. Have you been at the top of development curves for some time? Have you plateaued? Do you need new, steeper growth curves that can take you higher?
If we only connect with people who are at the same place in the journey, or even at an earlier place in the journey, we limit ourselves.
We have to link with people who are further down the line. We need “friends, allies, challengers, supporters, and colleagues along the way” who are where we are, and especially beyond where we are.
Let’s say you want to grow in your marriage. (A high-leverage idea!) Do you only know people who have poor or mediocre marriages? Or even couples who have marriages similar to yours? If so, chances are good you may not experience the marriage you really want.
If you want to level up in marriage, you’ll want to somehow link with marriages that are successful. Marriages that inspire and challenge you.
You can get this from good reading, retreats or conferences on marriage, and especially reaching out and getting to know couples who have great marriages. Perhaps even a marriage mentoring relationship for a season.
Level up through relational seasons
How are we spending our time? And with who?
Along the way, we still maintain friendships with people we knew at different levels of our journey, but at some point we part ways from working with some of those people (The Impact Equation).
We maintain relationships with good friends. But we also open up to new friends and connections. We will need them. This is all a vital part of leveling up.
Seasons generate growth and fruitfulness in our lives. We will need to reach out, connect, and work with new people along the path we are on as we move through relational seasons.
Let’s inspire young people to develop these skills early on. Model and teach how they can expand their relational networks instead of being co-dependent with one or two relationships.
And of course, we should pay it forward by empowering others who are coming along behind us.
Tap the web!
It’s really about personal connections. Real relationships and connections where we see people or communicate with them personally on the phone or web.
Networks are powerful. And authentic relational networks just may be the most impactful to accelerate who you’re becoming and what you do.
Today the globe is open source. There are also some quality resources for us on the web that can power us to level up.
Plus, if we use social media in a smart, intentional way, we can initiate and develop real offline relationships that will multiply value.
Q4U: How are you doing relationally? Choose one sphere of your life – will you reach out and begin to enhance that sphere with a fresh quality connection this week?